Thank You .... (2007 - 2019)

No matter what the outcome is, loving someone is never a waste of time.

They were all you wanted at the specific point in your life, and you wouldn't have been who you are right now if it wasn't for them.

Expectations breed disappointment and heartbreaks, especially when you start idealizing other people, because more often than not, they wouldn't live up to your expectations; They're just flawed humans after all, like you and me.

A picture as a reminder to be thankful no matter how bad or painful the ending was.

Love, Commitment and Marriage

Notes : Why the picture is hachiko statue ? 'Coz hachiko is a symbol a life of devotion.  

I wrote this post for all my friends who are single and happy .... 

The thought of committing our whole life to one person can be rather unnerving.

Because I am at the point in my life where I am not just looking for love, but something more.

Someone who is willing to go through for the thick and the thin with me. 

When you dedicate your life and entire self to somebody, it's only natural for you to wish some returns.

Or at least, you hope that things won't backfire and cause you disappointment and hurt. 

Well, as much and it's true that you can never be 100% sure about a person, or predict the future, it's not impossible to at least judge whether your significant other is a man ready to give you much more than just love and affection.

When I was young, there's a movie with the title "10 things I hate about You", the girl describe what she hate the most about her boyfriend, so in this post let me categorized what we are (I am) looking for the most favorite man to go through for the thick and thin with me.  

1. Ready to love you and only you.

2. He is completely honest and open with you.

3. He isn't afraid to apologize for his mistakes.

4. He is secure for his own self.

5. He doesn't need you to change for him

6. You know you can rely on him.

7. He makes you a better version of yourself. 

And after finding the perfect relationship with the right one, so the next  question is :

Is it necessary that a good relationship should end up in a marriage ? 

Why can't we love someone with no condition of getting married ?

And now I've seen marriage like a CONTRACT for social with government, traditions and religion.

When I was in Senior High School, I'm on discussion when many people talking about "living together before married". 
Of course, I'm the person who 99% agreed with the topic.

For myself, marriage isn't answer for everyone, especially me. 

You can live happily in relationship forever without a ring or marriage certificate.

Talking about a wedding ring, when my husband asking me to choose a wedding ring, I said that  "we don't need to wear a wedding ring, I don't like symbol. Any kind of symbols such as couple dress, couple thing or others."

Symbols such as  married certificate and also wedding rings is not the key of happiness.

If we are in relationship with someone make sure that the goal is the same for both parties involved.

You wouldn't want one party to be expecting marriage while the other is perfectly fine without it.

As long as everyone is one the same page the life can be just as happy, it is simple like that. 

In this case, if you are already 100% committed without needing a piece of paper to validate it, then your relationship is healthier than some out there. (IKP)

VIRGINITY is a social construct. Right or Wrong ?

When I was in Heavy Equipment Company, I met a guy who is much older than me (one of my crazy fans admire), once I asked him : "How about if your wife isn't virgin when she marry you ?"
Then he said : "poor husband has a wife isn't virgin anymore".

The variety of answers from my ex's and my friends such as "c'mon I'm also not a virgin, why I shall asked my girlfriend being a virgin". 

And I also have a friend who always asking me "I never see a broken hymen while have sex with my girlfriend, she said because of doing sports ? 
Is it true ? "

For me, to prove that women shouldn't be judge by their virginity. Women's value is more than whether the hymen is still there or not. 😁
This kinda pissed me off, 'coz your worth doesn't decrease just because you are not virgin anymore.
Virginity is a f*cking social construct.
Don't purchased the product if the seal is broken. #bullshit
Women are not product, we value ourself not because of virginity.
Every women have their own perspective about virginity. 
For those who kept it before marriage, that's a personal decisions.

For myself I believe sexuality is a personal journey and a personal need, I want to feel free about myself and enjoy myself without pressure of marriage.